Dear couple outside of Colectivo this morning, trying to jaywalk across Howell Ave.:
I’m sorry your plan to walk out in front of my car as I made my way over to the right turn lane resulted in you jumping back to the sidewalk curb, shaking and screaming (and hopefully peeing your pants a little bit) when you realized I wasn’t going to stop for your antics.
Maybe next time use the crosswalk 50 feet away from you once my light turns red. There’s a little light that looks like a person. It means “walk across because the cars are all stopped”.
1. Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.
2. Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums, where there are lots of people around, can fill the Empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.
3. Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for Empaths. To some, they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept Empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from a great distance.
4. Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an Empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.
5. You know when someone is not being honest: If a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many Empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.
6. Picking up physical symptoms off another: An Empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains), especially those who they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.
7. Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where Empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an Empath, will almost always be ungrounded.
8. Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an Empath’s attention and compassion.
9. Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An Empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.
10. Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.
11. Addictive personality: Alcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions Empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It can be a form of self protection in order to hide from someone or something (external emotions).
12. Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical:Although many Empaths would love to heal others, they can end up turning away from healing (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to Empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily. Even at the revelation of what many others would consider unthinkable, for example, Empaths would have known the world was round when others believed it was flat.
13. Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an Empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.
14. Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for Empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.
15. Need for solitude: An Empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.
16. Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an Empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.
17. Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an Empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many Empaths get labelled as being lazy.
18. Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an Empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.
19. Always looking for the answers and knowledge: To have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an Empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.
20. Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.
21. Abhors clutter: It makes an Empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.
22. Loves to daydream: An Empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.
23. Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an Empath even poisoning.
24. Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.
25. Excellent listener: An Empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.
26. Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, Empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider another’s feelings or points of view other than their own.
27. The ability to feel the days of the week: An Empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.
28. Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand: Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An Empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.
29. Sense the energy of food: Many Empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.
30. Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnected: Depending on how an Empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.
If you can say yes to at least 10 of these traits (especially 1 to 10), you could very well be an Empath.
Empaths may carry many of the same traits but they/we are still individuals. We can override or block certain traits and some traits will come and go over the years (strengthen or weaken) as life circumstances change. Once one has become aware of one’s birthright of being an Empath (this will normally happen when any, or all, of the above traits start screaming at you for attention), it is then we can find remedies to ease symptoms and perhaps discover what our true role in life is.
'What is REAL?' asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”
'Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.'
'Does it hurt?' asked the Rabbit.
'Sometimes,' said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful.
Really? That’s the catch phrase for Plan B One Step?
"When my birth control fails…" uh. What? I have an IUD. You know when I’m gonna find out that my birth control failed? When I’m dying from internal bleeding from an exploding fallopian tube because of an unexpected ectopic pregnancy.
It’s great that you can get Plan B over the counter now. It would be better if we could have a little bit of common sense in advertising. If you’re going to market Plan B to the population that needs to use it, some bullshit line full of rainbows and ponies and political correctness is not the way to do it. Because, seriously, if you’re using your birth control correctly and kind of relying on that 99.99% effectiveness, you’re not going to know within 72 hours if it failed.
"I don’t use birth control, and a condom wasn’t handy at the time, and I don’t even know how to use a condom anyway because my school teaches abstinence only and I’m freaking the fuck out right now because if I get a baby bump my parents are totally going to know that I had premarital sex and OH! Wait. I can just go to Target and find Plan B One Step next to the Benadryl and thank you, Jesus!"
There. That is how you reach your target audience.
I don’t know who you are. I don’t know what you want. If you are looking for ransom, I can tell you I don’t have money. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills; skills I have acquired over a very long career. And four long years of school to learn skills specific to a certain trade.
I graduated high school and began nursing school in 2001. Basically, I have dedicated the past 12 years of my life to a trade highly needed in this country. I managed to scrounge up enough scholarship funds to cover most of my undergraduate costs and managed to leave my undergraduate years behind with no debt. I chose to go into a field of nursing that has me working with at risk populations in the community.
Continuing education past the K-12 years does not have to be a special thing that’s set aside only for the privileged and elite. A huge amount of employment types qualify for loan forgiveness under the Public Service Loan Forgiveness Program. If I had needed to borrow a substantial amount of student loans from the US Government, my line of work is in enough demand that the Government would have been willing to forgive the balance of my loans after a set amount of payments, and those payments would be based off of my income using one of three different loan repayment plans.
It is incredibly shitty that a higher education costs so much money, and that people go into tens of thousands of dollars in debt so they can graduate and be told that their life work is valued at $17 per hour as a social worker, while they listen to news stories about how people taking fast food orders should get paid just as much. But there are plenty of programs to help people who are interested. I learned about programs from my high school guidance counselor. That’s right. Every school should have someone whose entire job is “dedicated to helping all students reach their academic, career, college readiness, and personal/social dreams by providing school counseling classroom curriculum lessons and academic, career, college readiness, and personal/social planning for every student annually”.
Back in the 1990s, Patricia Martin was hired by the Education Trust to help guide the guidance counselors into closing achievement and opportunity gaps in order to help children and adolescents of color, poor and working class children and adolescents, bilingual children and adolescents, and children and adolescents with disabilities. She put a lot of research into this, and brought in Dr. Reese House, and together, in 2003, they made the National Center for Transforming School Counseling. They found that a large amount of school counselors were maintaining the status quo, rather than advocating for a change to student outcomes. Over the next few years, they worked to change that, continued with research and teaching programs for counselors and, by 2008, had worked in over 100 school districts transforming the work of school counselors and had written standards of practice.
In 2011, over 5300 school counselors were interviewed regarding their views on educational policies, practices, and reform. As it turns out, school counselors, especially in urban and rural school settings, are not given the chance to focus on what they were trained to do, especially career and college access counseling and readiness for all students, in part due to high caseloads (overcrowded schools) and being assigned inappropriate tasks that take up too much of their time.
Research shows a strong correlation between lower school counselor to student ratios and better student success academically. Success is defined in terms of career and college access/readiness/admission, and for various personal/social issues including school safety, reduced disciplinary issues, and better attendance in school. Bottom line: Students with fully implemented school counseling programs do better in life.
Unfortunately, we don’t operate on common sense, and K-12 school budgets keep getting slashed. Guidance counselors, in schools fortunate enough to even staff them, aren’t provided with the opportunity to fulfill their purpose.
So, we’re what? Going to mandate lower tuition costs and student loan interest rates? Really? How is that going to fix anything?
Our children’s chance for success starts that first day of kindergarten and we start taking away their art and music and languages and history classes and physical education and science fairs and computers and library time and theater and after school programs. And after we take away everything that can help them help themselves, we take away or significantly limit the one person that can still help them have a future. Because all of the money used to help them learn and grow and be creative and explore the world keeps disappearing and all that’s left has to go to make sure they can reach a high enough math score to go out into the real world and… do nothing because that’s what they’ve been prepared for. But it’s fine, because student loan interest rates are fixed at 3.86%.
I don’t really know where I’m going with this. I think that’s how rants work.
Phase out the SNAP EBT cards and replace them with tickets that can only be exchanged for a specific food item. Oh. You need to feed a family of 5? Here is your book for a month. Tickets for loaves of bread, gallons of milk, cheese, meat, eggs, fruit, veggies, cereal, etc. Bigger families get more tickets, rather than giving a dollar amount based on income.
Offer tax breaks to companies willing to accept a lower reimbursement rate for products.
Tickets expire monthly so you can’t hoard and sell them.
Make nutrition assistance focused on nutrition. People want to complain about not having the freedom to get whatever they want? Tough shit. I don’t have the freedom to say “Fuck food stamps; I’m keeping my money”. You’re being assisted with taxpayer dollars. Beggars don’t get to be choosers.
Also. Stop subsidizing the Agriculture Industry and decriminalize recreational drugs. Make the justice system about protecting society instead of punishing an act.
When we get a new enrollee, we have to make face to face contact within 10 business days. The first, second, and third attempted visits failed. We are on the last business day. We haven't been able to get in touch with this guy ever. We've only been able to talk to his mom on the phone...
His mom's phone is shut off now. Should we just stalk his house for a while? We don't have a number for him.
We know he works at [Place].
Ok. There are 2 [Places] in Milwaukee.
*Call them. He just left*
Ok. So now we know where he works.
But he's not there.
He could be anywhere.
*Look through many many documents from county*
Oh! He's in Daily Living Skills with [company]!
*Call. No answer*
*more spy stuff*
Ok, as far as I can tell, he doesn't have a Facebook page.
*One hour later*
I was able to get a hold of his step dad. He doesn't know his cell phone number. He said he goes to Special Olympics Basketball after work, but he didn't know where they practice.
Ok. Maybe try calling [Person] from [Group Home]. He also coaches Special Olympics Basketball. He might know.
Maybe we should quit this job and start a private investigation business.
Today the case manager and I went to a client’s home for a care plan review. While there, she told us her daughter’s cat just had kittens and they didn’t even know the cat was pregnant. She led us into the bedroom where this cat was laying with five tiny balls of fluff that couldn’t even open their eyes yet. Three days old.
And we both thought, “Why is her daughter’s cat here?”. “Who is going to take care of these fucking kittens?”. “Oh great. That cat’s been outside often enough to make babies and now probably has fleas everywhere.”
And that is what happens to your brain when you go into Social Work.
“If people can’t trust, not only the executive branch, but also don’t trust Congress, and don’t trust federal judges, to make sure that we’re abiding by the Constitution with due process and rule of law, then we’re going to have some problems here.”—